Tokyo---Takashi Sakai is a healthy 41-year-old heterosexual man with a good job and a charming smile. But he's never had sex, one of a growing number of middle-aged Japanese men who are still virgins.
Sakai has never even had any kind of relationship with a woman, and says he has no idea how he might get to know one.
"I've never had a girlfriend. It's never happened," he said. "It's not like I'm not interested. I admire women. But I just cannot get on the right track."
It might sound like the subject for a Hollywood comedy, but far from being the social misfit portrayed by Steve Carell in 2005's "The 40-Year-Old Virgin", Sakai is one of a crowd.
A 2010 survey by the National Institute of Population and Social Security Research found that around a quarter of Japanese men in their 30s were still virgins -- even leading to the coining of a specific term, "yaramiso", to describe them.
The figure was up around three percentage points from a similar survey in 1992.
The period corresponds with Japan's prolonged economic slowdown, after a stock and asset bubble burst and the one-time financial powerhouse suffered years of lacklustre growth.
Matchmaking expert Yoko Itamoto says the economic emasculation has taken its toll on Japan's men, as more of them struggle to find secure, full-time jobs.
"Many men seem to have lost confidence as they've lost their economic muscle," she said.
"In the past two decades, the situation for Japanese men has been very tough and competitive."
The pain caused by an inability to form emotional and physical relationships with women is something that one 49-year-old architect, who did not wish to be named, knows too well.
Only twice in his life has he had romantic and sexual feelings for a woman -- the first time in his mid-twenties and then again two decades later.
Both rebuffed him.
"It was devastating," he told AFP. "It seemed to invalidate my life and take away my reason to live."
On both occasions he suffered rapid weight-loss, and now fears he might live life as a singleton and a virgin.
AFP
